Twirty is a term I came up with that describes the ever-confusing time in life when you leave your sacred twenties behind while learning to embrace your thirties. It is that period of time where you realize no one says to you “oh your too young to remember that!” or “Can I see your ID?” You look through celebrity magazines and you don’t know who most of the people are any more. Your knees are a bit sore in the morning and you definitely don’t bounce back as quickly after a late night out. But the hardest thing about Twirty is that all of a sudden you feel like you need to have it all together. Career-Check! Married-Check! Kids- Check Check! Your sheets match your comforter and you have cheese platters for your grown up parties but really you feel the same as you did before. And then it occurs to you- all of these “grown ups” in your life for all of these years, they were winging it too?! This realization both horrifies me and delights me. This means it is all just a façade- these things we think about other people, about our parents, or ourselves- they are all just ideas that we have formed about everyone throughout the years. It doesn’t make them true—or untrue for that matter.
This reality has started me on a self -help journey of my own to discover what I really want for myself, my family, and my life. I don’t want to spend my days putting check marks next to the things that we all feel that we have to do to be normal. I want to write my own list and change it as I go. I want to have ridiculous things on my list as well as simple pleasures. I want to be know for living bold and being unapologetically myself. I think people are beginning to understand the real picture—the idea that what car you drive, or what house you live in will never be enough. If that is all your seeking in life—you will be poor no matter how much money you have. Be rich with love, friends, and family. Spend your time with people who make you happy and who make you laugh—until you cry. The most wonderful pleasures in life are truly the ones that money can’t buy.